Criteria

My brother’s’ wedding day was over. My father used this event to project me as next candidate.

He soon started gunning for next daughter in law. I needed time to decide on my preferences.I would be discussing here my logic behind my preferences. Here i go...

Height: more than 5’4”
It is said in European countries that height of girl should be such that whenever both kiss, girl should be just on her toes.
Funny but practicality cannot be denied. I certainly did not think of this saying when I decided requisite height.

Job: Must be working
I believe that empty mind is devil’s workshop.
Least preference to software professional.

Job location: Pune
Any other location would do only if change of location to Pune does not affect job.

Education: If the job is fine, education which has resulted in that job should not matter.
No diploma holders.

Background: This might prove to be key preference. I would prefer a girl with semi urban background. Although she has finally to stay at a metro city she would have to stay with a person who has been born & brought up in semi urban and rural background. In addition both my parents are from rural background.

Girl should definitely not belong to Pune. I do not wish to have new family too close for comfort.

Parents: Both of her parents should be alive. Absence of any one is likely to create a void in their life after marriage. And this would lead to undesired access to my family in each and every unpleasant situation. This surely would be a liability.

Parents should have secured livelihood.

Sibling: Again should not create any liability.

Socio-economical background: It should be compatible with that of my family.

Horoscope: It becomes essential in arranged marriage. I will have to be superstitious. I don’t know the person that will be put in my home. I have no option to know it. The only alternative is to trust people who claim to know it.

Looks: average for me.

My parents have additional criteria for her. They don’t want money monger. They wanted only engineer. May be they wanted sheer show off. I had hard time convincing them to scale down the criteria.

I can put a sky high criteria but it should be limited by level of my preparedness for playing a role of husband & responsibilities thereto. I should not expect a thing which is non congruent to my character & lifestyle.

But there is no excitement on my side yet. I am prepared to compromise. I have identified areas where I would need to do so. The only thing remained is level of compromise needed in respective field. And that will be decided by girl that comes in my life.


Don’t want god to keep busy by crossing my fingers!

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इस् बार् जब् वो छोटी सी बच्ची मेरे पास् अपनी खरोन्च् ले कर् आयेगी
मैन् उसे फू फू कर् नहीं बेहलाऊन्गा
पनपने दुंगा उसकी टीस् को
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इस् बार् जब् मै चेहरोन् पर् दर्द् लिख देखून्गा
नही गाउन्गा गीत् पीडा भुला देने वाले

दर्द् को रीसने दून्गा,उटरने दून्गा अन्दर् गेहरे
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इस् बार् मै ना मरहम् लगाऊन्गा
ना ही उठाऊन्गा रुइ के फहेय्
और् ना ही कहूंगा कि तुम् आखें बंद् करलो,गर्दन् उधर् कर् लो
मै दवा लगाता हुं
देखने दुंगा सबको हम् सबको खुले नन्गे घाव्
इस बार नहीं

इस् बार् घावों को देखना है
गौर् से
थोडा लम्बे वक्त तक्
कुछ् फ़ैसले
और् उसके बाद् हौसले

कहीं तो शुरुवात् करनी ही होगी
इस् बार् यही तय् किया है !




-प्रसून जोशी

Ingawale (Shravan bal)

As per last post i will start off with my friendlist. Sorry guys to bit late but its better to be late than never... :D

Abhijit ...

We met for the first time during first year of engineering and barring one semester, have been virtually inseparable right through college and all the exams, especially the dreaded viva voce ones. He was my project partner and was perhaps my lucky mascot for the exams and some of my best project vivas have been with him sitting in the next chair.

He is intelligent, technically sound and used to get highest marks in college days among us.

A genuine person in the truest sense of the word, there is nothing put-on or artificial about him. He is comparatively less talkative, but genuinely good listener and true to his heart. Ready for anything to do, anywhere to go; at anytime. One more thing come to my mind when it comes to abhijit is his love for his GF; currently his better half. i will specifically like to quote here that he is intense lover. He loves movies; literally dies to watch movies. He likes to play cricket too.

This guy got married in June 2K7 and is expecting an addition to the family; early next year (came to know yesterday only :D). He has the honor (?) of being the first of the pack to put an end to his singleton status, even before any of the girls could do so.

All The Best, Buddy!!!