Well I was pretty disappointed with what i wrote in post “Moving ahead”… because people close to me said I’m getting into that web again..and i don’t want to. So i thought of writing something all together different. This one is a mix of fact n fiction…story of someone close to me. I still wish she gets back her love..
Background: The scenario is two people who have been in love.. meet each other after their breakup in a cafe.
(After the usual hi and hellos..they settle down..they try not to look into each other's eye. I guess they fear they might fall in love all over again..but liars..they are still in love. Don’t know they lying to each other or to themselves? She is thinking god he still looks so handsome..what made me leave him..and he thinks she has really got into very good shape… :) The waiter props up... )
He: one black coffee for the lady...
She(in mind): oh he still remembers i like black coffee.
She: One dosa…of course for the guy...
(And they both smile..a restrictive smile..they start talking about what they have been doing off late..a very objective kind of conversation. He gets a call...)
He: Excuse me...!
(He is smiling while talking… )
She(in mind): oh my god.. he is even blushing..must be someone special..oh so he forgot me so soon..n here i m still thinking about him.
(She is caught staring at him..she just smiles and looks away..he joins later…She wants to ask who called up..very desperately..but how can she? She no more has the right to ask..n she puts a plain expression on her face. As if he is reading her mind...he says.. )
He: That was my bro's gf...
(n she takes a deep sigh.)
She(in mind): Of course he hasn’t found someone so soon..he wasn’t that kind of ever.
(She wants to explain she wasn’t being suspicious..it's just how gals are..but she chooses not to speak. While they start having what they ordered.. she realizes.. oh his ringtone...)
She(in mind): that’s my favorite song. I think he still loves me..no.. he doesn’t. that’s his favorite song as well...
He(in mind): She is wearing my favorite color black..no... that must just be a coincidence..
How time has changed..there wasn’t a day when they met and didn’t comment or complimented each other. But of course time has changed..she hands over a tissue to him..n he takes it in such an edgy way..fears he might touch her hand.. oh that’s the reason he didn’t have the usual handshake when we met. There were days when the first thing they wanted to do is hug each other..but now..time has changed..n they start talking about cricket, politics.. movies..n they both wonder it's been an hour n in spite of having different opinions they are coolly talking about everything..no arguments nothing. Have they grown up or is it they don’t bother each other with their opinions? they don’t wanna prove who’s right n who’s not..wish they were like this months before..in that case they would have still being together..but time has changed..will continue to change either…
will continue later…
December 17, 2009
March 15, 2009
Marriage | my thoughts
This post is absolutely not a criteria of mine for my marriage. Its just what i think if i would be asked about it. (Indirectly it means - interested girls, please dont take it otherwise. :D)
My brother’s’ wedding day was over. My father used this event to project me as next candidate.
He soon started gunning for next daughter in law. I needed time to decide on my preferences.I would be discussing here my logic behind my preferences. Here i go...
Height: more than 5’3”
It is said in European countries that height of girl should be such that whenever both kiss, girl should be just on her toes.
Funny but practicality cannot be denied. I certainly did not think of this saying when I decided requisite height.
Job: Must be working
I believe that empty mind is devil’s workshop.
Preference to girl having engineering background.
Job location: Pune
Any other location would do only if change of location to Pune does not affect job.
Education: If the job is fine, education which has resulted in that job should not matter.
No diploma holders.
Background: This might prove to be key preference. I would prefer a girl with semi urban background. Although she has finally to stay at a metro city she would have to stay with a person who has been born & brought up in semi urban and rural background. In addition both my parents are from rural background.
Girl should definitely not belong to Pune. I do not wish to have new family too close for comfort.
Parents: Both of her parents should be alive. Absence of any one is likely to create a void in their life after marriage. And this would lead to undesired access to my family in each and every unpleasant situation. This surely would be a liability.
Parents should have secured livelihood.
Sibling: Again should not create any liability.
Socio-economical background: It should be compatible with that of my family.
Horoscope: It becomes essential in arranged marriage. I will have to be superstitious. I don’t know the person that will be put in my home. I have no option to know it. The only alternative is to trust people who claim to know it.
Looks: average for me.
My parents have additional criteria for her. They don’t want money monger. They wanted only engineer. May be they wanted sheer show off. I had hard time convincing them to scale down the criteria.
I can put a sky high criteria but it should be limited by level of my preparedness for playing a role of husband & responsibilities thereto. I should not expect a thing which is non congruent to my character & lifestyle.
But there is no excitement on my side yet. I am prepared to compromise. I have identified areas where I would need to do so. The only thing remained is level of compromise needed in respective field. And that will be decided by girl that comes in my life.
Don’t want god to keep busy by crossing my fingers!
My brother’s’ wedding day was over. My father used this event to project me as next candidate.
He soon started gunning for next daughter in law. I needed time to decide on my preferences.I would be discussing here my logic behind my preferences. Here i go...
Height: more than 5’3”
It is said in European countries that height of girl should be such that whenever both kiss, girl should be just on her toes.
Funny but practicality cannot be denied. I certainly did not think of this saying when I decided requisite height.
Job: Must be working
I believe that empty mind is devil’s workshop.
Preference to girl having engineering background.
Job location: Pune
Any other location would do only if change of location to Pune does not affect job.
Education: If the job is fine, education which has resulted in that job should not matter.
No diploma holders.
Background: This might prove to be key preference. I would prefer a girl with semi urban background. Although she has finally to stay at a metro city she would have to stay with a person who has been born & brought up in semi urban and rural background. In addition both my parents are from rural background.
Girl should definitely not belong to Pune. I do not wish to have new family too close for comfort.
Parents: Both of her parents should be alive. Absence of any one is likely to create a void in their life after marriage. And this would lead to undesired access to my family in each and every unpleasant situation. This surely would be a liability.
Parents should have secured livelihood.
Sibling: Again should not create any liability.
Socio-economical background: It should be compatible with that of my family.
Horoscope: It becomes essential in arranged marriage. I will have to be superstitious. I don’t know the person that will be put in my home. I have no option to know it. The only alternative is to trust people who claim to know it.
Looks: average for me.
My parents have additional criteria for her. They don’t want money monger. They wanted only engineer. May be they wanted sheer show off. I had hard time convincing them to scale down the criteria.
I can put a sky high criteria but it should be limited by level of my preparedness for playing a role of husband & responsibilities thereto. I should not expect a thing which is non congruent to my character & lifestyle.
But there is no excitement on my side yet. I am prepared to compromise. I have identified areas where I would need to do so. The only thing remained is level of compromise needed in respective field. And that will be decided by girl that comes in my life.
Don’t want god to keep busy by crossing my fingers!
