I thought the story deserved a happy ending … you know with all those mushy-mushy lines. But then reality pinched me and I said to my friend... babes’ u r living in fantasies! Wake up..!
Here I’m sharing my thoughts which i gave to my friend. Actually I don’t like to blow my own trumpet (everytime :-D), but this is what I thought of at that time and still firm on it. Let me know if you guyz agree with me or not.
At that time, I think last year, when she (my friend) asked me what should she do..I started thinking… and you know when I think…I think as if I have never thought before... :-) At times when two people decide to go different ways... they create a void, a deep void one in each other's life. It takes hell lot of time to fill that feeling of emptiness that leaves one hollow for life.
Those late night calls… smses…long drives...hours in arms…physical intimacy…hugging after prolonged fights...close dance on symphony of life… having a glimpse at public places and shying away. You tend to miss all that attention and all those moments…and strange thought of getting back crosses your mind. One keeps saying to oneself this should work. We would try harder n stuff…but reality…reality is stranger than fiction. It pokes you… It hurts the most.
I don’t wanna say that one should never change one’s mind...not even trying to say if they chose different ways in life, they should follow that for the rest of their life. All I wanna say is think 100 times before you take that crucial decision of breakup…and if you regret your decision and wanna get back think 200 times. If you love someone it's not easy to.. let that person go…to imagine life without that person. After all he or she is that special one. But if you decide to do so...let that decision come after thorough thorough processing.
Try out all possible means to make it work and even then you fail, it’s time to move on. Don’t blind yourself with words like love...care...moments...romance! They sound intense…okay. These things are intense...but you need to have a reality check done. Love cannot keep you going all your life. Just like a friend of mine says ‘it's all about living together, not loving’. All you need to have is understanding...compatibility...compassion and a feeling of companionship. That’s it!
Said finally...decision is your's.
Will come with the real end later…
January 08, 2010
December 17, 2009
A real life story...Part I
Well I was pretty disappointed with what i wrote in post “Moving ahead”… because people close to me said I’m getting into that web again..and i don’t want to. So i thought of writing something all together different. This one is a mix of fact n fiction…story of someone close to me. I still wish she gets back her love..
Background: The scenario is two people who have been in love.. meet each other after their breakup in a cafe.
(After the usual hi and hellos..they settle down..they try not to look into each other's eye. I guess they fear they might fall in love all over again..but liars..they are still in love. Don’t know they lying to each other or to themselves? She is thinking god he still looks so handsome..what made me leave him..and he thinks she has really got into very good shape… :) The waiter props up... )
He: one black coffee for the lady...
She(in mind): oh he still remembers i like black coffee.
She: One dosa…of course for the guy...
(And they both smile..a restrictive smile..they start talking about what they have been doing off late..a very objective kind of conversation. He gets a call...)
He: Excuse me...!
(He is smiling while talking… )
She(in mind): oh my god.. he is even blushing..must be someone special..oh so he forgot me so soon..n here i m still thinking about him.
(She is caught staring at him..she just smiles and looks away..he joins later…She wants to ask who called up..very desperately..but how can she? She no more has the right to ask..n she puts a plain expression on her face. As if he is reading her mind...he says.. )
He: That was my bro's gf...
(n she takes a deep sigh.)
She(in mind): Of course he hasn’t found someone so soon..he wasn’t that kind of ever.
(She wants to explain she wasn’t being suspicious..it's just how gals are..but she chooses not to speak. While they start having what they ordered.. she realizes.. oh his ringtone...)
She(in mind): that’s my favorite song. I think he still loves me..no.. he doesn’t. that’s his favorite song as well...
He(in mind): She is wearing my favorite color black..no... that must just be a coincidence..
How time has changed..there wasn’t a day when they met and didn’t comment or complimented each other. But of course time has changed..she hands over a tissue to him..n he takes it in such an edgy way..fears he might touch her hand.. oh that’s the reason he didn’t have the usual handshake when we met. There were days when the first thing they wanted to do is hug each other..but now..time has changed..n they start talking about cricket, politics.. movies..n they both wonder it's been an hour n in spite of having different opinions they are coolly talking about everything..no arguments nothing. Have they grown up or is it they don’t bother each other with their opinions? they don’t wanna prove who’s right n who’s not..wish they were like this months before..in that case they would have still being together..but time has changed..will continue to change either…
will continue later…
Background: The scenario is two people who have been in love.. meet each other after their breakup in a cafe.
(After the usual hi and hellos..they settle down..they try not to look into each other's eye. I guess they fear they might fall in love all over again..but liars..they are still in love. Don’t know they lying to each other or to themselves? She is thinking god he still looks so handsome..what made me leave him..and he thinks she has really got into very good shape… :) The waiter props up... )
He: one black coffee for the lady...
She(in mind): oh he still remembers i like black coffee.
She: One dosa…of course for the guy...
(And they both smile..a restrictive smile..they start talking about what they have been doing off late..a very objective kind of conversation. He gets a call...)
He: Excuse me...!
(He is smiling while talking… )
She(in mind): oh my god.. he is even blushing..must be someone special..oh so he forgot me so soon..n here i m still thinking about him.
(She is caught staring at him..she just smiles and looks away..he joins later…She wants to ask who called up..very desperately..but how can she? She no more has the right to ask..n she puts a plain expression on her face. As if he is reading her mind...he says.. )
He: That was my bro's gf...
(n she takes a deep sigh.)
She(in mind): Of course he hasn’t found someone so soon..he wasn’t that kind of ever.
(She wants to explain she wasn’t being suspicious..it's just how gals are..but she chooses not to speak. While they start having what they ordered.. she realizes.. oh his ringtone...)
She(in mind): that’s my favorite song. I think he still loves me..no.. he doesn’t. that’s his favorite song as well...
He(in mind): She is wearing my favorite color black..no... that must just be a coincidence..
How time has changed..there wasn’t a day when they met and didn’t comment or complimented each other. But of course time has changed..she hands over a tissue to him..n he takes it in such an edgy way..fears he might touch her hand.. oh that’s the reason he didn’t have the usual handshake when we met. There were days when the first thing they wanted to do is hug each other..but now..time has changed..n they start talking about cricket, politics.. movies..n they both wonder it's been an hour n in spite of having different opinions they are coolly talking about everything..no arguments nothing. Have they grown up or is it they don’t bother each other with their opinions? they don’t wanna prove who’s right n who’s not..wish they were like this months before..in that case they would have still being together..but time has changed..will continue to change either…
will continue later…
