Marriage | my thoughts

This post is absolutely not a criteria of mine for my marriage. Its just what i think if i would be asked about it. (Indirectly it means - interested girls, please dont take it otherwise. :D)

My brother’s’ wedding day was over. My father used this event to project me as next candidate.

He soon started gunning for next daughter in law. I needed time to decide on my preferences.I would be discussing here my logic behind my preferences. Here i go...

Height: more than 5’3”
It is said in European countries that height of girl should be such that whenever both kiss, girl should be just on her toes.
Funny but practicality cannot be denied. I certainly did not think of this saying when I decided requisite height.

Job: Must be working
I believe that empty mind is devil’s workshop.
Preference to girl having engineering background.

Job location: Pune
Any other location would do only if change of location to Pune does not affect job.

Education: If the job is fine, education which has resulted in that job should not matter.
No diploma holders.

Background: This might prove to be key preference. I would prefer a girl with semi urban background. Although she has finally to stay at a metro city she would have to stay with a person who has been born & brought up in semi urban and rural background. In addition both my parents are from rural background.

Girl should definitely not belong to Pune. I do not wish to have new family too close for comfort.

Parents: Both of her parents should be alive. Absence of any one is likely to create a void in their life after marriage. And this would lead to undesired access to my family in each and every unpleasant situation. This surely would be a liability.

Parents should have secured livelihood.

Sibling: Again should not create any liability.

Socio-economical background: It should be compatible with that of my family.

Horoscope: It becomes essential in arranged marriage. I will have to be superstitious. I don’t know the person that will be put in my home. I have no option to know it. The only alternative is to trust people who claim to know it.

Looks: average for me.

My parents have additional criteria for her. They don’t want money monger. They wanted only engineer. May be they wanted sheer show off. I had hard time convincing them to scale down the criteria.

I can put a sky high criteria but it should be limited by level of my preparedness for playing a role of husband & responsibilities thereto. I should not expect a thing which is non congruent to my character & lifestyle.

But there is no excitement on my side yet. I am prepared to compromise. I have identified areas where I would need to do so. The only thing remained is level of compromise needed in respective field. And that will be decided by girl that comes in my life.


Don’t want god to keep busy by crossing my fingers!